A lady friend
of mine recently broke up with a boyfriend and was heartbroken. She kept saying,
“I’m so pretty, how could he break up with me.” After a while, she confessed
that her behavior towards him wasn’t exactly angelic and I didn’t know how to
tell her that being pretty was only good for attracting the guy (heaven knows
how many times I’ve screwed myself over a pretty face or a sexy body) but it
required something else to keep the relationship going.
I bring this up
because I work in an industry which is effectively the laundromat of businesses
gone wrong. The story is not uncommon. People are presented with something that
looks really good or the presenter is someone that they trust implicitly. They
are duly impressed, put in their money and before long they end up fighting for
bits of paper that has long diminished in value. I think of a trial in a trade
mark dispute over a bar in Bali, where a group of high-powered English and Australian
businessmen kept telling the court, “But we were mates.” When you run into
enough of these incidents, you end up wanting to bash the buy over the head and
yell “Dude – you’re a high-powered person – how did you fall for this.”
In all
fairness, the saying that “first impressions count,” is exceedingly true. How we
judge people often depends on our initial meeting and unfortunately, humans (particularly
men) are visual creatures. We mistake what looks good for actually being good. I
think of the wise words of my Uncle Jeffrey who once hired me. He was particular
about how his employees dressed. His reasoning was simple – “Cosmetics count.”
This is something
that the conmen of the world are all very aware off. One only has to look back
at the movie “Catch Me if You Can,” staring Leonardo DiCaprio. One of the key scenes in that movie comes from
a piece of advice that a young Frank Abagnale receives from his father (played
by Christopher Walken) as to why the New York Yankees always win:
Like it or
not – looking good is big part of the game.
We need to
remember that the term “con” comes from “confidence” and conmen used to be
known as “confidence tricksters.” If you want to run a successful scam involves
gaining the confidence of the people you are going to scam.
As such, people
running scams do their best to ensure that first impressions are all powerful.
The entire high end fashion industry depends on the image that it creates in
the minds of people. Who doesn’t notice the Rolex watch or the Armani jackets? Think
of who buys high end cars and property? When you know that a person drives a
Mercedes, the instant impression is that that person must be doing well – how else
could they afford the Mercedes.
Think of a
former US President who went through great efforts to stress that he was a
billionaire. He saw to it that we saw his private jets and swanky apartments. It
created an image that everyone believed in. When he said “drain the swamp,”
everyone clapped and said that he was a politician who couldn’t be bought
because – well he had shown us that he had all the money in the world. The fact
that he using contributions from his campaign donners to pay off personal
liabilities was another story that got ignored.
In order to
stay safe from being scammed, one does need to do something called due diligence.
It’s easy to believe someone is successful when you notice that they drive a Mercedes and
seem to be very generous in all the places that one should be seen in. Few
people will bother checking if the Mercedes is being financed by say, resistance
to paying manual labourers who do work for them.
Being a good
con is, however, is more than just about being pretty. There’s also the ability
to get the right reference. A former head hunter once explained that the key
was getting into one bank and staying there for a reasonable amount of time.
After that, getting the next job would become considerably easier because the
other banks would assume that if you made it past the first one, you’d have to
be a good chap. One only has to think of how the legal fraternity got scammed in EnvyTrading. How did Mr. Ng scam the great and mighty? It was most likely that hescammed one and that one proceeded to sell his scam for him.
Most people
tend to be cautious in the initial interactions ie, “let’s try it out until we
get to know each other,” type of mentality. As such, the best crooks usually do
what the ordinary ones don’t. They invest in time. They build up genuine reputations
for being reliable and then they pull the plug. Most people don’t really care
about how or what you as long as their getting paid. I think of the dealer in
high end goods who invested years in building up a reputation as a solid
paymaster until one day he claimed he couldn’t pay because his customers had
gone under. Reputation as someone from Kroll once said, “Is a nebulous thing.”
It’s always
nice to see the best in people. It’s easy to fall for things that look pretty.
However, we always need to have that element of skepticism in all our dealings,
even with our nearest and dearest.
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