I know it’s not a nice thing to admit but I love the idea of getting laid and getting laid regularly with a variety of women. While I am past the age where getting laid on a daily basis with multiple partners is no longer a priority, I like looking at beautiful women. The only reason why daily commutes to the Central Business District are tolerable is the view of the numerous good-looking women who inhabit the place. My only defense for confessing to all these things in the public space is that I’m probably no different from just about every normal heterosexual man around.
Having confessed to having a sex drive, I have to admit
something rather uncool. I don’t get laid as often as people have imagined me
to. Part of it is due to the fact that I’m
a married man with a young daughter. As such, my priorities have changed from
my 20s. It’s as simple as this, if I have a $100 extra in my pocket, I save it for
next week’s groceries rather than spending it on dinner with someone in the
hope of an hour of fun.
The second reason why I don’t put my fantasies into action
when it comes to sex is because the risk-reward ratio for being a rascal looks
increasingly lop-sided. Biology has made the male and female sexual strategies
different. For men, we are biologically inclined to “sow” our seed. For women,
they’re rather more selective. The reason is simple, they are the ones who
carry the child for nine months. In that period, their physical strength is
compromised. After that, the child has to raised for nearly 20-years. It is in
a woman’s interest to ensure that a man sticks around to help her with the kid
or kids. Biologically speaking, when a woman enters a sexual relationship, she
is going to expect exclusivity.
Modern birth control has to an extent “liberated” women and the
“rules” about women being confined to exclusive sexual relations, while men sow
their oats has been loosened. It’s less of a taboo for a woman to have more
than one sexual partner than it used to be. Things like “friends
with benefits” where men and women have “sex-only” relationships are also becoming
more acceptable.
However, while social norms on sexual exclusivity are loosening,
biological instincts do make their presence felt. This is particularly true
when “wondering” men get punished for breaking the concept of exclusivity by
the women who felt that the men had promised exclusivity to them.
One of the most prominent examples in Singapore’s social
circle involves a Dr. Julian Ong and a Ms. Serene Tiong. Details of the story
can be found in my previous posting “HELL HATH NO FURY LIKE A WOMAN SCORNED,”
published on 1 December 2020. This was a case of a woman who went against a man because she felt that the man in question was, for want of a better term, leading her man astray. Ms. Tiong made a complaint against Dr. Ong and Dr. Chan, who was her lover at the material time to the Singapore Medical Council (SMC), alleging that the doctors were swopping notes on female patients whom they could take advantage of and have sex with. Ms. Tiong claimed that she had screen shots of text messages of the two doctors colluding. Dr. Ong sued for defamation and won.
Dr. Ong and Ms. Tiong – Copyright Channel NewsAsia
One might have assumed that this was the end of the matter. Ms. Tiong failed to prove her case about the "bad" behavior of the two doctors and in addition to her legal cost, she had to pay damages to Dr. Ong. While Dr. Ong had the legal victory, he was also placed under extreme stress of having to fight her legal challenges. One might have argued that while Ms. Tiong failed to ruin Dr. Ong, she did the make life difficult and would have been content with that after having legal damages awarded against her.
However, this didn't happen. Ms. Tiong has shown that even though her allegations against the Dr. Ong had been proven to be defamatory in a court, she's willing to attack him though other means. The first is to ensure that the world sees her as a victim. Her performance in the following video is a clear illustration of her efforts to get herself portrayed as a "Second Parti Liyani," and Dr. Ong as another version of Liew Mun Leong. Ms. Tiong's performance can be seen in the following clip:
While Ms. Tiong was stressing that she lacked the
resources to fight any legal battle against Dr. Ong, she neglected to mention
that she had opened up another legal pitfall for Dr. Ong. This time, instead of
targeting Dr. Ong directly, she tried to take action against HC Surgical
Specialist (HCSS), the listed company that had an interest in acquiring Dr. Ong’s
Endoscopy Surgery. Ms. Ong bought enough shares in HCSS to attend the AGM and
tried to take legal action against both HCSS and its Chief Executive (CEO), Dr.
Heah Sieu Mien. Ms. Tiong’s legal actions have been dismissed by the court as
lacking no merit. Reports can be found at:
https://sg.news.yahoo.com/apex-court-dismisses-spore-woman-quest-for-revenge-160140073.html
It’s clear that Ms. Tiong’s attempts to take action against HCSS and Dr. Heah did not have legal merits. Neither Dr. Heah or HCSS had any role in the "love affair gone wrong," which at the heart of Ms. Tiong's complaint against the two doctors. It doesn't take a law degree to realise that the suite against Dr. Heah and HCSS had no merits and she would lose and damages would be awarded against her. Given that Ms. Tiong is a reasonably successful professional in her own right (she was a Business Development Manager at Thomson Medical), it's hard to imagine that Ms. Tiong would be unaware of her chances of success in pursuing the matter. So, why did she do it, other than to make life uncomfortable for Dr. Ong by attacking his potential business partners. This was summed in the judgement in the case against Dr. Heah and HCSS. A copy of the judgement can be found at:
https://www.supremecourt.gov.sg/docs/default-source/module-document/judgement/-2020-sghc-201-pdf.pdf
The best part about this event is that Dr. Ong was not even her lover in the first place. There is no evidence which suggests that Dr. Ong was either her lover or doctor. What we do know is that he was a friend of Dr. Chan, who was involved with Ms. Tiong. If Ms. Tiong feels "cheated" in a love affair, her issues should be with Dr. Chan and not Dr. Ong.
So one has to question Ms. Tiong's issues with Dr. Ong. Why has she gone through such extremes to punish Dr. Ong and continues to pursue Dr. Ong despite losing two court matters and being forced to pay hefty legal fees and fines. Ms. Tiong seems to be more than just a woman scorned.
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