I recently
finished watching a Nollywood film called Blood Sisters, which centred around
two best friends who ended up running from the law because they killed the finance
of one of them, who happened to be abusing her.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r9sSydb5ec8
If you look at
this incident in this Nollywood series, you’ll realise that the human being has
an incredible ability to tolerate abuse if he or she believes that there’s a material
benefit and the line “All this over one slap” can applied to anything. In
Singapore, this problem is most commonly found in the are of migrant labour.
Every justification for mistreating migrant workers works along of the line
that whatever we’re doing (unsafe transportation, unsanitary living conditions
etc) are just “one slap” and the jobs that the migrant workers do and the
salaries they are paid is the “all of this” in the equation.
Generally
speaking, the argument covers a lot of things. Migrant workers do put up with
their lot in life because they are getting “all of this,” and are not going to
complain about “one-slap.” Since nobody complains, everyone assumes that the
situation is not abuse.
However, what
nobody seems to understand is the fact that just because nobody complains about
a situation, it doesn’t mean that the situation is alright. In the show, the situation
starts when the girl tells her finance that she won’t marry him because her
best friend has the made the point to her that if she forgives her finance for “one-slap”
it will be a lifetime of slaps for her.
The question is
inevitably where does the line get drawn and in the case of “abusive” behaviour,
it usually doesn’t stop at “one-slap,” and it’s been found that if wounds from
abuse are left untreated, they inevitably fester and the problem ends up worse.
Take the issue of unsanitary conditions in the worker dormitories as an example.
The unsanitary conditions in the dorms are the proverbial “one-slap” that the
workers put up with because they are getting “all of this” in return. Since nobody
complains, nobody deals with the underlying problem. When Covid hit, the
dormitories proved to be breeding grounds for the disease and the government
has struggled to get the situation under control (so much so that the Minister
of Manpower still won’t enter a dormitory unless he’s in a hazmat suite).
We need to find
a way of understanding that issues don’t go away because nobody complains. We need
to understand that when people complain, they are doing us a service by
pointing out that underlying issues exist and need to be addressed. Changing
the culture that listens to criticisms is not rocking the boat but ensuring things
constantly improve.
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