Towards the end of last year, I found myself talking about my marital status, when the person I was talking to asked “How come a guy of your caliber went for a Vietnamese girl and not an “Ang Moh” (Singapore slang for Caucasian) girl?”
While the person I was speaking to meant to compliment
me (I wasn’t aware that I was a person of caliber), I remember this remark
because it reflects a strange mentality that many of us in Asia have about
having Westerners in your life is automatically a step up whilst have Asians
from other parts of Asia is a step down.
I am aware that many of the Westerners who come to
Asia often come in executive positions and I am aware that many of the Asians
who do come to Singapore often come as domestic helpers, construction workers
and yes, I am aware that many women from places like China, Vietnam and the Philippines
do work as prostitutes.
However, just because one group work in nicer places
than the other, it does not necessarily make that one group better. Sure, I may
have a lot more in common with the lawyer and banker than I would with the construction
worker, but I’ve found that the likes of lawyers and bankers aren’t necessarily
better people than construction workers. They merely have more money. As the
adage goes, the only difference between what goes on in Orchard Towers and
Geylang is the clientele. The Westerners at Orchard Towers are merely paying
more for beer and sex than the Bangladeshi, Thai, Indian and China workers at
Geylang for the same thing. What makes one better than the other? I guess the
answer is that one is has more money to pay for his vices.
If anything, dismissing people from third world
countries as being a “step-down” is often a mistake. It assumes that you have a
natural sense of superiority because you were born in a particular country or
you went to a certain school.
If you take away all the arguments about good manners
and decency, dismissing people from other parts of the world limits you in where
you can go. Like it or not, the big markets of the future are inevitably in “third
world” countries. China and India grab the headlines because of their vast size
and geopolitical clout. However, they are not the only markets opening up. Here
in Singapore, we have the wider ASEAN region and even Africa, long regarded as
the basket case of global economics is becoming known as an “emerging market.” At
the same time, the developed markets of the USA and EU are becoming more closed
as politicians bend to protectionist pressures.
So, why do you want to automatically want to shut
yourself of from people from the places that could give you future
opportunities. It does not make sense
The second point is that people from third world
countries have certain skills that make up for their “lack of education.” They
are, for example, good at reading people. I remember a former colleague who ran
into my wife. The former colleague told me “I know Vietnamese are only
interested in money – I’ve done my research.” Funnily enough, the wife didn’t
need to do her research. She told me – “That girl thinks you have a lot of
money. She eyed up my ring.” Given my former colleague’s expectations when it
comes to picking up the tab, I can’t say my wife is wrong.
The other thing area in which we lose out to is in the
area of human connections. Yes, I am sure that I will be bombarded with
complaints about why I am supporting people who “help their own kind.” But if
you think about it, isn’t it the most natural thing to do in a foreign country
to look out for people who are similar enough to you?
I’m not saying that migrant communities don’t have
issues and their petty jealousies. However, by and large, they try to help each
other out. The more established ones try to find jobs for new comers and help them
out with the paper work that makes bureaucrats around the world salivate. Why
do they do this? Firstly, they do so because they were once helped and then,
there’s an understanding that the people you help will one day help you should
you need it. I think of my good friend Porna who is now working as a chef in
the Shangri-La. The man who is now Singaporean (National Service Completed)
helps his friends from the Nepali community and in turn he’s never been out of
work.
We seem to have lost this ability to network and help
each other. Instead, we divide ourselves into entitled little cast. One of the best
examples I can think of is a young little thing (Yes, Singapore Chinese
Graduate) who after three months in a new job developed a habit of getting the
boss’s PA to call people in the same office (which is a small office).
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