The Big News in the world of celebrity gossip is the fact
that the American Actor, Al Pacino is set to become a father at 82. Age has definitely
not slowed Mr. Pacino and the news of Mr. Pacino’s virility can be found at:
https://people.com/al-pacino-girlfriend-noor-alfallah-is-pregnant-7505948
Its slightly different the other way round. A woman
who ends up with younger guy is regarded as predatory. Look at it this way, whatever
one says of Donald Trump, most of us secretly respect him for getting Melania by
his side. The same cannot be said for Emanuel Macron who married his French
teacher and inherited kids who were the same age as him.
Still, the fact remains, virility and being
established attract each other. In the old days, it was understood that the man
would be the established one and any respectable established man would have the
most fertile looking woman around. However, as we enter an age where women with
established careers are being normalized, we also need to accept that these
women would be attracted to younger virile men.
So, I guess you could say that age is just a number
and if both parties care about each other, then who is to complain? Love and
sexual attraction work in mysterious ways. I take my own experiences as an
example.
At the age of 19, I ended up in a relationship with a
woman who was 12-years older and black. This was what you’d call the ultimate thrill
for a guy who had just left a nearly all boy school in a world where Asian men
don’t get attention for being “sexually powerful” unlike their Caucasian and
Black counterparts. We did meet again much later on when I was 30 and she was 42.
The attraction was still there but she wasn’t the goddess of my youth and I
suspect that part of it was the fact that I was older and the things that
mattered at 19, were less important at 30. If anything, I’d curious to know how
we’d get on, now that I am 48 and she’s 60.
One of the key points of this relationship was that it
made my dad uncomfortable and the truth is, I was so infatuated with being in a
relationship with a woman who gave me “street-cred,” that I could never appreciate
his discomfort over my relationship.
Then Kiddo happened to me. Ended up with a Vietnamese
girl who came along with a 7-year-old. I had a bad first marriage and I vowed that
I would never see marriage or kids, ever. Then, this 7-year-old came along and gave
me the two happiest months of my life, where I understood what it was like to
live for something other than myself. Immigration saw to it that the
relationship would not last. Ended up in two relationships with single mothers.
Ended up liking the kids far more than the mothers, though admittedly the
mothers somehow managed to reenter my life minus their kids.
When Huong asked me to marry her, the main focus was,
now I had the chance to bring Kiddo to Singapore, where she could grow her life
in a safe environment. So, life only really began when a now 12-year-old showed
up and seemed to confirm that I had done something right.
In the experience of having kiddo return to my life, my
view on sexual attraction changed I noticed it in two incidences. One was when
a 54-year-old former boyfriend of one of my nieces kept asking Kiddo for her
phone number. She was 14 at the time and I was visibly upset. She tried to
pacify me by saying the he had known her when he visited Vietnam and I had to
say, “That’s not the point, he’s 54 and you’re 14.”
The second incident involved meeting one of her school
friends who was busty and slender. I actually had to remind myself that this
was my daughter’s friend and therefore wrong.
I am as red blooded as the next heterosexual man. I
remain a sucker for the usual parts of the female body. At 48 I appreciate the
female body as much as I did at 18. The change is that a woman 25-years younger
than me is old enough to be my kid and the instinct is to stop the predator and
not to be the predator.
It was Kiddo who reentered my life so, I think as a dad
to a girl. Would I think differently if the kid in my life was either Zach or
Yooga. A part of me might actually feel proud of them if they got seduced by
someone like a school teacher (assuming the school teacher is a lady). I mean,
as someone said, “sticking it in always sounds better than having something
stuck into you.” Yet, one has to ask – why would I be cool with that but not if
it had been an older man with a young girl. I like to think that if it happened
to the boys in my life, I’d go after the predator too.
Age is a number. Experience and Virility are like two
opposite poles on a magnate and if you’re talking about two consenting adults,
what’s the issue. However, when you become a parent, you see things
differently. Its images of your kid that make you worry that there’s power
imbalance in the relationship and you worry that it could be your kid that’s
getting screwed over. Age is a number is a logical thought – being a parent is
inevitably instinctive.
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